Abusers (batterers) tend to take their anger out on their intimate partner but it’s not really about anger. It’s about trying to instill fear and to have total power and control in the relationship. Anger therefore is a tool that an abuser will use for manipulation and maintain control.
Though there are no typical victims of domestic abuse, abusive relationships do share similar characteristics. In most cases, the abuser aims to have power and control over a victim. Many times they may turn to physical violence – kicking, punching, grabbing, slapping, or strangulation.